Much as a newborn baby comes with happiness, there are also a couple of worries and fears of new parents that it comes with. Whether it is your first child or not, there is always that unexplainable feeling that comes with becoming a parent for both mother and father.
Some of the common worries and fears of new parents include finances, worries that the baby sleep a lot, fears that the baby might die in sleep, worries that they will not be able to love their children and that a crying baby means it is sick. Other worries and fears of new parents include dropping the baby and the pain at the fontanelle.
This article will take you through the common worries and fears of new parents.
Worries and fears of new parents
Whether your pregnancy was planned or not, there is always that fear that comes with having a child. The following are some of the most common ones;
Finances are among the most common worries and fears of new parents. This is because having a child is expensive. From the pregnancy journey, delivery and child upkeep, school fees and so on and so forth. For those who really love their child, whether planned or unplanned, they will be worried about finances because they want what is best for their child.
This is one of the reasons you will see most men trying to run away from child support claiming the baby ain’t theirs. Everything about a child needs money: from diapers, baby clothes, baby formula, health covers etc.
2. Fears that the baby might die in sleep.
Other worries and fears of new parents is the thought that their baby might die in sleep. If you are a parent, you can relate. This kinds of death are usually known as Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
Many parents want a cool child; by cool, I mean a child who does not cry too much, causing them to be awake both day and night. However, those who have a quiet child who sleeps for longer usually fear their baby dying in sleep.
Have you ever been in a situation where you are touching your baby’s chest or listening closely to it breathe just to be sure it’s still breathing? That is the feeling I am talking about. New moms and dads can relate.
3. Worries that the baby sleeps a lot.
Much as people want calm children, they will be worried if the baby becomes extremely calm and sleeps a lot.
Babies do, in fact, sleep a lot. However, if yours is sleeping a lot more than usual, they may be ill. For a while, keep a close eye on your child to see how long he or she sleeps. Most mothers are aware of how long and how frequently their babies sleep during the day. This way, you’ll know whether the baby’s sleeping is normal or not.
Sick children may sleep for longer periods of time than expected and may be difficult to wake up for feedings. You may even notice that they are drowsy when you wake them up. If your baby exhibits these symptoms, you should take them to the doctor because they may be sick.
4. Worries that they will not be able to love their children.
You might not believe this but many factors lead to new parents worrying and fearing if they will be able to love their children enough. This is why all parents need to put their mental health in check. This is good for them and the baby.
All parents want to love and care for their children, but sometimes, there is always that fear. This happens if an unplanned pregnancy happens or when young people become pregnant.
Sometimes, how a woman became pregnant leads to these thoughts. If it was through rape, for example. If this is your situation, you are not alone. Seek counselling, and all will be fine with time. To feel bonded with your child, spend more time with it, breastfeed and hug it more oftenly.
5. Fear that a crying baby means it is sick.
Other most common worries and fears of new parents is a sick baby. Have you ever seen or heard a new parent taking a crying baby to the hospital then after examinations, the doctor says the child is fine? This happens every day.
Nobody will blame you if you’ve been here. After all, your baby cannot speak yet, and you are just a loving and caring baby that is concerned about the baby’s welfare.
If you are a new parent, keep in mind that all babies cry. If you don’t believe me, think back to your child’s first doctor’s appointment or that day in the maternity room. Did you hear them cry? I bet you did. Babies cry in different ways when they are in pain, hungry, want to sleep, or want to be cuddled. If your baby continues to cry despite your efforts to soothe it by holding, breastfeeding, bathing, or changing its diaper, it could be a sign of illness. If this happens, take your baby to the doctor.
Read the following post to know the signs that your baby may be sick:
6. Fear of dropping the baby.
Dropping the baby is also among the worries and fears of new parents. New parents need coaching and advice on how to carry their babies, breastfeed and bathe them. This is because they do not know how to do all that unless they are taught.
All new mums require a helping hand from parents or doctors to be able to do all these things well. Lack of experience or guidance may lead to them hurting the baby unknowingly by dropping it. Hold the baby properly and be careful when moving it around the house.
7. Pain at the fontanelle.
Pain at the fontanelle is also another among the common worries and fears of new parents. Newborn babies have fontanelles. For those wondering what a fontanelle is, it is a velvety area on the baby’s head. It usually moves till the baby reaches a certain age. New parents usually worry that the baby might be in pain because of that.
You do not need to worry about a baby’s fontanelle unless it is swelling or changing color. The fontanelle of a baby must be closely monitored. This way, the parent will be aware of any changes. A bulging fontanelle indicates brain edema or fluid accumulation and may indicate brain swelling or fluid accumulation. If you notice a large or bulging fontanelle, immediately take your baby to the doctor.
8. Fear that the baby is not normal
Abnormal children are also among the worries and fears of new parents. It is very normal for parents to compare their children with others. Maybe a sibling or a neighbour’s child. Doing this will bring so much confusion as every child is uniq￼￼ue.
You do not expect your baby to cry or laugh like that of your neighbour. Some parents feel that if their baby does not act like another baby, then they are not normal. NO! Take your baby for an examination if you have any concerns about your baby’s behaviour or physical appearance.
There are many worries and fears of new parents out here. This article has mentioned just but a few of these fears. Feel free to tell us some of the fears and worries of parents that are not mentioned in our post.